Staying Lovers

Staying Lovers

Families need parents that focus more on themselves

Child: “It’s so comfy with you, can I stay?” “No, you can’t.” “Why not?” “Because this is just for us. Good night.” “This is a topic that is close to Juul’s heart, which comes through in the text of the book. He knows exactly what parents speak about, and he has visions and advice about the keys to having a good relationship DESPITE children.” Mathias Voelchert, familylab

Parents elsewhere are happier than they are here. Why is that? Because no matter how many children they have, French or Scandinavian parents don’t forget about being happy as a couple. Experienced family therapist Jesper Juul encourages parents to spend romantic time together, because this is what forms the basis for the whole family’s happiness. Romance before parenting! When parents give time and space to their romantic relationship, instead of just constantly circling around their children, then all of the members of the family end up leading more happy and relaxed lives. And this is the only way to create a harmonious environment in which children grow up strong and confident in their own relationships. So when you’re thinking of another stressful family night out, spend that money on a babysitter instead!